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Thursday, May 2, 2013

Reinvention? Why I am blogging.

Why am I blogging?
 
Good question. I am 52 years old and female and I lost my profession a few years back, three to be exact, and I haven't been able to find myself since. It was and is depressing to lose oneself at 49 years of age. But okay, so it's done. Now what? After three long years I am trying to reinvent, invent, renovate, hell tear it down and start from scratch. Whatever! The point is I am trying. Well some days I try, other days I am not sure what I do, if anything at all.
 
Who was I three years ago? Without spending too much time sharing what was, to put it simply, I was a home builder. Although I absolutely loved building homes, it simply no longer exists for me, so I have to move on, and I really want to move on. So because of my love of houses, blogging about all things having to do with houses seems like a pretty natural thing to do. I am going to make mistakes, so if you see something I have done wrong or incorrectly please let me know. Try to be kind, it helps to be kind, don't you think? I told my son a week ago, that it is hard for this old dog to learn new tricks, and he said, "Mom, the difference is your not a dog." I am not exactly sure if this was a compliment but I get his point, I think. Nevertheless, dog or no dog, this reinvention thing, it's hard.
 
Here are some of the houses that I built.






 

Have you ever had to reinvent yourself? What did you use to do and what do you do now? How did you get through your reinvention? I really would like to know. Please share.

30 comments:

  1. Hi Patty, I am only a few years behind you and know exactly what you are talking about. I have had a million jobs, but the one I loved was being a costumer for tv and film. Unfortunately, the writers went on strike for 9 mos(in the 90's). I knew I did not want to live with all that on again, off again stuff so I went into sales. I also went back to school to get a degree. Fast forward, and blogging seems like a good way to spend my time as a stay at home mom. When I was in that place that you are describing, I would read books for motivation and inspiration. Have you found "Lean In"? Go watch a few of the video's on YouTube and see if it feels right.

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    1. Linda you are officially my first follower! Yeah!! I wish I could give you a hug! Big cyber hug!!

      I have done several things over my life, but what felt the most natural was building homes. I do have about 50 credits towards an interior design degree, however I was so busy building houses I just didn't have the time to continue. I remember one day in class one of the students asked me, "Why are you here, you are already doing something you love and making a bundle." And I thought she was so right, so I didn't enroll after that semester. I wish I had stayed with it. I love interior design, and I could now be putting that degree to work. Oh well, choices were made, they were good choices at the time.

      Thank you for the book suggestions, I am an avid reader and I will definitely check out the video you referred to you. Thank you! I have always read motivational books my entire life and it does help me.

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  2. I think we stumble upon others blogs for a reason! I am in the process of reinventing myself after my career as a teacher ended. It ended by choice, that is that I chose to be mentally sane instead of a career based in public education insanity. I just couldn't stand by and watch what we do to beautiful children in this country by squashing their creativity and turning them into test taking drones. Now I paint. It's my love, my passion- and like my therapist pointed out one day- ironic. I take pieces I see as old and tattered and make them beautiful again. I love your homes! you are a creative soul- nurture that. You know who you are, you know what you love- just get creative and try out some different ways to have that outlet.

    Hope that helps!

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    1. Oh, I too think we encounter people in our lives for a reason, maybe in person, maybe on a blog, but nevertheless there is a reason, and I am glad you found mine, and left a message.

      It sounds like you have found your passion, and I hope you find joy everyday in what you do! Reinvention is a tough cookie! And not always pleasant but I hope when I come out the other side I will realize and perhaps even appreciate the journey. I am hopeful. I love what your therapist said. I feel like I am old and tattered and maybe one day I might just be beautiful, maybe if I try hard enough and never stop trying....maybe.

      Thank you for saying you loved my homes. I haven't heard that in a few years. I loved them too. It is difficult to be a creative person and have nothing to create. The other night I was at book club and someone asked the question of the book, "The Night Circus," why did the author include the audience people within the book, and I said, "What would a circus be if there was no audience, what would art be if no one saw it, a musical concert with no listeners." Someone turned to me and said, "are you an artist?" I hesitated, but then said, "no." But I knew even as I said it that I am an artist, but since I hadn't been able to create anything of late, that I didn't feel like one. I need to work on the artist inside of me. It was sad and enlightening all at the same time.

      Thank you for your kind words, they are much appreciated!

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  3. Thank you, Patty, for your kind comment.

    I'm so sorry, and you are not alone. The economic downturn was so great that it strained and touched many successful and established people in their 40s. I know so many in my every day life, but reaching out to others is one way to find your voice and rhythm again.

    Though I still feel strained in my writing's personableness, my artsy side is returning.

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  4. Thank you!

    I like your description, "find your voice and rhythm again." I do know that there are many people in a similar situation to me and I guess we are all trying to find our way again, it's not easy, it is a work in process. It sounds like you have been through a bit yourself. I am glad your "artsy" side is returning. I can only hope for the same.

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  5. Hi Patty-
    I'm so glad I found your blog. I just started blogging last week! Maybe we can teach other things as we learn :)
    Lori @ http://jasminebrook.blogspot.com/

    P.S. These houses are beautiful.
    I think you are very creaitive and talented, you just have to figure out how best to apply these talents. I will pray for you :)

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    1. Lori, I am so glad you found my blog. I am new to all of this, and yes I need to learn plenty!! Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated, and I would be glad to do the same. Thank you for your kind words, I need all the encouraging words I can get. Your blog looks wonderful by the way. I also read your post on your Easter table settings - beautiful.

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  6. Have I ever had to reinvent myself? Oh boy.... yes, about a hundred times. Thought I'd be a graphic designer- but did a short stint in the fashion publishing industry- went on to become a sportswear premium designer- then at home mom with special occasion decorating (parties, weddings, holidays), then got a masters in gifted edu and taught science for 12 years, all the while flipping houses, and now I write my own blog and spend money and sleep in. I've earned it1 Hahaha

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    1. Well Cheryl, I am glad I am not alone in this reinvention thing! Congratulations on being able to spend money and sleep in - I hope to get to that situation someday!! Hahaha

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  7. In the reinvention stage now too..I left teaching to move to Texas last summer. We are originally from here and we came home to help parents. It was much harder to do than I expected but it's getting easier by the day. My role in life now pretty much involves helping our family members. I miss teaching very much but am honored to be able to help and also glad that I'm not working full time while trying to do all the things that are needed.

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    1. Hey Stacey! It is so nice that you were able to move back home and that you are able to help your family with their issues. It is hard to move and hard to give up your profession - I truly feel for you. It is a wonderful thing to be in a position to be able to help your family, but I know that can also take a toll on the caregiver, remember to take care of yourself as well. Thanks for chatting with me. Patty

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  8. Going thru your blog already.You have an eye for design. Your homes are beautiful. It amazes me someone that is a natural talent has to go to school to get that "certificate" . Lol. When you have creativity flowing thru your mind( I can relate) but reality , ( economy, ect) doesnt allow you to express it and get paid for it and we must do what we have, to to survive financially. It can be depressing. I was depressed for 2 years while making the decision to give up our home. The home we built and I loved so much. But my the economy tanked, husbands long term career wasnt going great. My career slowed down. 3 years later and getting into gardening in our rental . Creating flower beds,ect. I sowed my way thru it!:) And I really like our rental.(wished we owned it). It also didnt help that I was going thru medical induced menopause too. What us women have to go thru. :) And I am 44 .You just sharing and knowing that your needing a reinvention is a start. Something goood will come out of it..And I hope you use your natural talent in whatever you choose. :) take care! mishelle

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    1. Mishelle, thank you so much for your kind words, they are appreciated. I am sorry you have had a rough time yourself. It sounds like you have worked your way through a lot of difficulties, and have come out the other side. I looked at your blog and your house looks beautiful and it shows that you have a lot of talent. The outside of your home looks lovely also, it is clear that you have spent a lot of time outside caring for your home. Enjoy!!
      Thanks, Patty

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  9. Hi Patty! Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and leaving such a kind comment. I LOVE your son's comment (don't our boys say the funniest things?) and I'm so glad you shared a bit of your story. I'd be so happy to support you on your road to discovery, I'm sorta of going through a new experience--soon to be empty nester---as we send our baby off to college in August. So I can relate to you, looking around with a new set of eyes at all kinds of possibilites. I'm your latest follower, nice to meet you.
    Leslie aka Gwen Moss

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    1. Thank you Leslie. "A new set of eyes," I like that thought. I was all over your blog last night, your writing is beautiful. With my interest in photography I too feel like I am discovering a new set of eyes. I will be following you as well!
      Thanks, Patty

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